Sex toys are a great tool to arouse yourself or a partner. They help with clitoral stimulation, which is necessary for women to reach orgasm. They also help men who have penises that are unable to climax by themselves.

Try using a vibrator for foreplay with your partner to stimulate the nerves of the clitoris and anus. Make sure you use a safe lubricant.


Dildos stimulate the erogenous zones and awaken the libido, whether used alone or with a partner. They can also add excitement to sexual play and can help achieve orgasm. The dildo can be as simple or complex as you like, but the most important thing is to use it responsibly and safely. For example, do not insert the dildo into your body without first warming it up and using lubrication. Also, clean your dildo after each use.

Toys made of dual-density silicone are the safest, but a variety of materials are available for your choice. Choose a dildo that is comfortable in your hand and fits your size. It is best to buy a dildo at a sex shop that provides detailed information about its material, safety, and care. Also, look for a store that offers a wide range of products, including toys designed for women, femmes, and LGBTQ people.

It is best to start small and slowly work your way up. Make sure you have enough lubrication to prevent irritation or discomfort. It is also important to warm up before you use your dildo, so try some manual stimulation or masturbation techniques. This can help you find the right pleasure points and reduce your ’work load’. It can even benefit your partner, because it will show them what you enjoy and how to please you in bed.


Harnesses are an erotic accessory that draws attention to the chest. They can be worn with a T-shirt or blouse, and are often used in sexual role play. The straps can be made of thin elastic bands to emphasize the cleavage. They can also be made of leather, which looks more elegant and luxurious. Some models have rings to look more erotic and sexy. These models will look best with a strapless top.

There are several kinds of harnesses, including thong, jock-strap, and underwear. Underwear harnesses are sized like men’s underwear and have an O-ring sewn into the front to hold a dildo. Jock-strap harnesses have straps that wrap around each thigh and leave the area between the legs open. Some people prefer this style because it is sturdier and more masculine, but others find it uncomfortable.

The first rule when choosing a harness is to make sure that it fits correctly. The O-ring needs to be a snug fit, and the waist straps should be tightened. Ideally, the harness will rest on the pubic bone and not fall off during movement. The dildo should be inserted into the harness before tying the waist straps. Most dildos have a wide base that helps them sit well in a harness, but some have a narrower base. Dildos with suction cup bases can be used, but they may tear during sex, which can ruin the experience.


The idea of strap-ons is pretty intriguing, because they let you use a vibrator during sex hands-free. They can be used for anal sex, vaginal penetration, oral sex, hand jobs—the options are endless. However, the most important thing to remember is that you and your partner should communicate what you want from the experience before you get started. Make sure to discuss your boundaries, and make it clear that you are both enthusiastically consenting to the activity.

Strap-ons can be used by women or men, and they are especially popular with lesbians who are exploring their feminine kinks. They can also be used to experience penetrative sex with partners who have a penis, which is great for people with erectile dysfunction or for those who are unable to get erections naturally.

While using a strap-on for the first time can feel weird and scary, it is important to learn how to use it safely. It is also a good idea to use plenty of lube, and to make sure that your sex toys are clean before and after both solo and partnered play. This will prevent thrush, UTIs, and other sexually transmitted infections. Use a water-based lube, and don’t use silicone, which can damage the sex toy. Lastly, don’t forget to ask for feedback from your partner, and always be respectful of their needs.


For women who are averse to penetration, there are a variety of sex toys that allow you to experience pleasure from the outside. These devices are called insertables, and they can be used with a partner or alone. They come in a wide range of shapes, sizes, and textures, and can be inserted into a vagina or clitoris. Many of them also come with vibration and visual feedback. They are available at sex toy shops, as well as online.

However, while this new type of sex toy may arouse some people, others still object to them. Some believe that insertables could cause arousal orgasms in some women by stimulating the clitoris. Others feel that the sex toy will interfere with their sexual relationship with a partner or lover.

A recent study of sex toy users found that consumers prefer insertables that are not an exact proxy of a penis. This finding supports previous research on feminist attitudes toward phallic-shaped toys, and suggests that women can enjoy penetrative masturbation without having to carry around this suggested symbol of patriarchal power (Doring, 2022). This study also showed that product popularity was predicted by the size of a toy’s circumference. This result supports the idea that retailers should consider adjusting their selection to include more insertables in average to slightly above-average sizes.